NARRATIVE FOCUSED TRAUMA CARE
Marko Zeko
Prostor gdje se priče čuju, imenuju, i mijenjaju.
NARRATIVE FOCUSED TRAUMA CARE
Marko Zeko
A space where stories are heard, named, and changed.
Prostor gdje se priče čuju, imenuju, i mijenjaju.
A space where stories are heard, named, and changed.
Moj rad oblikovan je kroz Narrative Focused Trauma Care® — pristup u kojem sam, nakon Level III edukacije, stekao i formalnu certifikaciju (Certified in Narrative Focused Trauma Care®) na The Allender Centeru u Seattleu. Taj me proces naučio nešto što danas smatram srži svog rada, ali me je prije svega proveo kroz osobno zacjeljenje vlastite traume — proces koji mi je dao kapacitet da budem zreliji suprug i otac, i prisutniji u vlastitom pastoralnom radu. Posebnu strast osjećam za rad s narativima pojedinaca, onim mjestima gdje se nalazi stvarnost boli, ali i snažna mogućnost zacjeljenja. Ta ista strast me vodi i prema biblijskim narativima, u kojima prepoznajem isti obrazac: istina se imenuje, a iz istine izrasta nada.
Već petnaest godina služim kao pastor u Splitu i južnoj Dalmaciji. Danas sam i voditelj Odjela za brak i obitelj pri Kršćanskoj adventističkoj crkvi u Hrvatskoj i Sloveniji. Moj akademski put vodio me kroz Theologische Hochschule Friedensau u Njemačkoj, gdje sam završio Master of Theological Studies (MTS), i Andrews University u Michiganu, SAD, gdje sam stekao MA iz Leadershipa.
Sa suprugom Marinom, koja je i sama trenutno u procesu NFTC edukacije, imam privilegiju dijeliti ovaj poziv i kao supružnici i kao roditelji. Zajedno smo roditelji sina Andrije i kćeri Ljupke, i zajedno vodimo predavanja i seminare posvećene odnosima, privrženosti i cjelovitosti.
Vjerujem da svatko od nas nosi priču vrijednu poštovanja, i da je posao pred nama, moj jednako koliko i vaš, naučiti tu priču čitati s poštenjem, ljubaznošću i nadom.
My work is shaped by Narrative Focused Trauma Care® — an approach in which, after completing Level III training, I also earned formal certification (Certified in Narrative Focused Trauma Care®) at The Allender Center in Seattle. That process taught me what I now consider the core of my work, but above all it carried me through my own healing from trauma — a process that gave me the capacity to become a more mature husband and father, and more present in my own pastoral work. I hold a particular passion for working with individual narratives, the places where the reality of pain and the real possibility of healing meet. That same passion draws me to biblical narratives, where I recognize the same pattern: truth is named, and hope grows out of that truth.
I have served as a pastor in Split and southern Dalmatia for fifteen years. Today I also lead the Department for Marriage and Family at the Seventh-day Adventist Church in Croatia and Slovenia. My academic path took me through Theologische Hochschule Friedensau in Germany, where I completed a Master of Theological Studies (MTS), and Andrews University in Michigan, USA, where I earned an MA in Leadership.
With my wife Marina, who is herself currently in the process of NFTC training, I have the privilege of sharing this calling both as spouses and as parents. We are together the parents of our son Andrija and daughter Ljupka, and together we lead talks and seminars dedicated to relationships, attachment, and wholeness.
I believe each of us carries a story worth honoring — and that the work ahead, mine as much as yours, is learning to read that story with honesty, kindness, and hope.
Narrative Focused Trauma Care® (NFTC) pristup je razvijen na The Allender Centeru u Seattleu, utemeljen na jednoj jednostavnoj, ali dubokoj istini: ono što ne možemo imenovati, ne možemo ni promijeniti.
Svatko od nas nosi priču — obiteljsku, osobnu, ponekad i generacijsku — koja je oblikovala način na koji se danas povezujemo s drugima, reagiramo u sukobu, ili doživljavamo sami sebe. Većina te priče djeluje ispod površine, u obrascima naučenim prije nego što smo imali riječi za njih. NFTC pristup polazi od uvjerenja da se prava promjena ne događa kroz brza rješenja ili savjete, nego kroz pošteno, strpljivo susretanje s vlastitom pričom — u prisutnosti nekoga tko sluša s poštovanjem, znatiželjom i bez osude.
Kako to izgleda u praksi. Rad kroz NFTC nije predavanje niti niz koraka koje treba odraditi. To je razgovor u kojem se, polako i u vašem tempu, otvara prostor da ispričate ono što je bilo teško ispričati — i da u tom pričanju, zajedno sa mnom kao svjedokom, pronađete riječi za ono što je dosad ostalo neimenovano.
Za koga je ovo. Za pojedince koji žele bolje razumjeti vlastite obrasce i njihov korijen. Za bračne parove koji se vrte u istim sukobima i žele nešto dublje od komunikacijskih savjeta. Za svakoga tko osjeća da nosi priču vrijednu poštenog pogleda.
Savjetovanje koje nudim temelji se na NFTC pristupu i osobnom iskustvu. Ovo je nekliničko savjetovanje — ne zamjenjuje psihoterapiju, psihološko savjetovanje niti liječenje mentalnih poremećaja.
The Narrative Focused Trauma Care® (NFTC) approach was developed at The Allender Center in Seattle, grounded in one simple but profound truth: what we cannot name, we cannot change.
Each of us carries a story — family, personal, sometimes generational — that has shaped how we connect with others today, how we react in conflict, or how we experience ourselves. Most of that story operates below the surface, in patterns learned before we had words for them. The NFTC approach begins with the conviction that real change doesn't happen through quick fixes or advice, but through an honest, patient encounter with your own story — in the presence of someone who listens with respect, curiosity, and without judgment.
What this looks like in practice. Working through NFTC isn't a lecture or a checklist. It's a conversation in which, slowly and at your own pace, space opens for you to tell what has been hard to tell — and in that telling, together with me as a witness, to find words for what has so far remained unnamed.
Who this is for. For individuals who want to better understand their own patterns and where they come from. For couples caught in the same recurring conflicts, wanting something deeper than communication tips. For anyone who feels they carry a story worth an honest look.
The counseling I offer is grounded in the NFTC approach and personal experience. This is non-clinical counseling — it does not replace psychotherapy, psychological counseling, or treatment of mental health conditions.
Bilo da dolazite sami ili sa svojim supružnikom, savjetovanje koje nudim temelji se na istom uvjerenju: da se stvarna promjena događa tek kad se prizna i imenuje ono što je dosad ostajalo neizrečeno.
Whether you come alone or with your spouse, the counseling I offer rests on the same conviction: real change happens only once we acknowledge and name what has so far gone unspoken.
Za one koji žele razumjeti obrasce koji im otežavaju odnose, posao, ili osjećaj mira sa samim sobom — obrasce koji često sežu duboko u djetinjstvo, a danas neprimjetno upravljaju svakodnevnim reakcijama.
Zajedno prolazimo kroz vašu priču, u vašem tempu, tražeći mjesta gdje je sram, strah ili naučena šutnja preuzela riječ umjesto vas.
For those who want to understand the patterns that make relationships, work, or inner peace difficult — patterns that often reach deep into childhood and quietly govern everyday reactions.
Together we move through your story, at your pace, looking for the places where shame, fear, or learned silence took the word instead of you.
Za parove koji se iznova vrte u istim sukobima, osjećaju distancu koju ne znaju imenovati, ili žele produbiti odnos koji već funkcionira, ali zaslužuje više pažnje.
Radimo s pričom svakog partnera zasebno, ali i sa zajedničkom pričom braka — prepoznajući kako se obrasci iz djetinjstva svakog od vas susreću u vašem odnosu danas.
For couples caught in the same recurring conflicts, sensing a distance they can't quite name, or wanting to deepen a relationship that already works but deserves more attention.
We work with each partner's story individually, and with the shared story of the marriage — recognizing how each of your childhood patterns meets the other in your relationship today.
Otvorenost i ranjivost koje se u grupi pokažu gotovo nikad ne ostaju neuzvraćene — postaju poziv i drugima da učine isti korak. Moja je uloga u tom prostoru uloga facilitatora: vodim dinamiku, štitim sigurnost razgovora, i pomažem da se ono što je izrečeno doista čuje.
The openness and vulnerability that show up in a group are almost never left unanswered — they become an invitation for others to take the same step. My role in that space is that of facilitator: guiding the dynamic, protecting the safety of the conversation, and helping what's said actually be heard.
Dostupan sam crkvama, organizacijama i skupinama koje žele ugostiti predavanje, radionicu ili vikend seminar na temu odnosa, braka, privrženosti i cjelovitosti. Dio predavanja vodim samostalno, a dio zajedno sa suprugom Marinom.
Uobičajene teme: kako djetinjstvo oblikuje naše današnje odnose, razumijevanje umjesto osude, privrženost kao temelj sigurnosti u braku, put od srama prema iskrenoj povezanosti.
Available to churches, organizations, and groups who want to host a talk, workshop, or weekend seminar on relationships, marriage, attachment, and wholeness. I lead some talks on my own, and some together with my wife Marina.
Common topics: how childhood shapes our relationships today, understanding instead of judgment, attachment as the foundation of marital safety, the path from shame to honest connection.
Vjera nije odvojena od ostatka života — ni od naših rana, ni od naših odnosa. Kroz razgovor, molitvu i promišljanje nad vlastitom pričom, ovaj prostor je za one koji žele produbiti svoj odnos s Bogom na način koji je pošten prema onome što stvarno nose u sebi — bez lažnog spiritualnog optimizma koji preskače bol.
Faith is not separate from the rest of life — not from our wounds, nor from our relationships. Through conversation, prayer, and reflection on your own story, this space is for those who want to deepen their relationship with God in a way that's honest about what they actually carry — without the false spiritual optimism that skips over pain.
Predavanje o tome kako naše djetinjstvo oblikuje način na koji se danas povezujemo s najbližima — kroz uvide iz interpersonalne neurobiologije, rad na traumi i osobnu priču predavača.
Vikend posvećen odmoru, jačanju braka i duhovnoj obnovi — za bračne parove koji žele produbiti svoj odnos kroz predavanja, male grupe i zajedničko vrijeme.
Zanima li vas neki od ovih događaja, ili biste željeli pozvati mene (ili nas oboje sa suprugom Marinom) na svoj događaj? Javite se.
A talk on how childhood shapes the way we connect with those closest to us today — through insights from interpersonal neurobiology, trauma work, and the speaker's own story.
A weekend devoted to rest, strengthening marriage, and spiritual renewal — for couples who want to deepen their relationship through talks, small groups, and shared time.
Interested in one of these events, or would you like to invite me (or both of us, with my wife Marina) to speak at yours? Get in touch.
Najbrži način da me dobijete je poruka na WhatsApp. Javljam se u pravilu unutar 24 sata.
The fastest way to reach me is a WhatsApp message. I typically reply within 24 hours.
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